Selfies and bikini shots get a bad name—they're a little cheesy, and maybe a little braggy, but the fact of the matter is, they're a fun record of our youth, whether we're 21 or in our mid-40s with two kids. Some of them will be bad, and thanks to digital film (and hopefully good friends), most of those will get deleted. Some of them will be just meh, and we'll look a little BBQ-and-beer-bloated in them. It's OK that there are a few crummy pics of you out there in the world, though, especially if there are others where you look relaxed, happy, flattered, and damn sexy. So how do you get those photos? We asked three top bloggers for advice on poses and poise.